I am thankful for my family. I am putting up the link for my old blog!! I am so happy I am divorced and that I have my four children. I wouldn't change it for anything. I have tried to share the most I can to help others that have gone through divorce/abusive situations. Mostly my ex-husband was only home for birthdays and trips and things with his career being so fully involved. The last two years were when he made a total change. It was after a Navy Seals Training and he came home very upset with PTSD symptoms from the almost abusive training. He also started to verbally and physically abuse me at after his training (just after my last child was born) for the first time ever. We kept the family involved in family therapy/relationship therapy and heavily involved the bishop. The bishop privately told me (in basic) at the end of a council with him, "You can really only do what he is doing to a woman so many times before she leaves. I really do not see that this will get better." It was devastating to hear, but after going through so much more after the divorce and during I truly feel he saved my life and my kids lives. Thank you bishop there is no way to repay you. I had gone to several other clergy men in our church and they continued to send our marriage to a therapist (off and on since I was 24). Then this bishop (clergy) sat there and didn't let it go straight to therapy. He wanted to know the whole story instead, himself (word for word from each of our view points). It was a long road, however I do know one things, "I tried everything I could and I do not have any remorse about finally leaving."I filed the papers. The end.
Also, I have been unkindly treated in judgement as times because of this. I caution anyone who judges a domestically abused woman (and those are the words of my very honorable bishop) to think twice. It's one of the hardest jobs out there to be a single divorced mother (alimony/child support or not)! No thanks is all you should say and thank you for contributing to society instead of what I see a lot, "Keeping up with everyone else, by making good appearances." Someday your fake pictures and fake relationship might take root so much, you can't hide it anymore in front of society, friends and family. Please, just leave if you are in an evil marriage. It's easy to make things look/appear good, but it is really what is going on in the hearts that counts.
Old Blog:
https://conanandchrissybeach.blogspot.com/
(we tried and sorry it did not work. I did not contribute to the demoralization of human society at large and also especially in Christian America)
Also, I have been unkindly treated in judgement as times because of this. I caution anyone who judges a domestically abused woman (and those are the words of my very honorable bishop) to think twice. It's one of the hardest jobs out there to be a single divorced mother (alimony/child support or not)! No thanks is all you should say and thank you for contributing to society instead of what I see a lot, "Keeping up with everyone else, by making good appearances." Someday your fake pictures and fake relationship might take root so much, you can't hide it anymore in front of society, friends and family. Please, just leave if you are in an evil marriage. It's easy to make things look/appear good, but it is really what is going on in the hearts that counts.
Old Blog:
https://conanandchrissybeach.blogspot.com/
(we tried and sorry it did not work. I did not contribute to the demoralization of human society at large and also especially in Christian America)
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